Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Book Review: Loving Our Kids On Purpose


I read this fantastic book on parenting entitled “Loving Our Kids On Purose”. No, I don’t have any children yet, but I wanted to read it just the same. I would say this book is good for anyone who wants to know the heart of the Father. The author, Danny Silk, communicates the love of the Father and how parents can model that love. He shows how we send messages to kids about what God is like by the way we parent. If we parent with strict rules and punishments the child thinks God is a strict disciplinarian bent on punishment. But if we parent in freedom based on love and we lead by love we will show them the Father’s heart. Silk explains how many still parent in an old covenant way and that it is more relevant and beneficial to parent in a new covenant way. He gives practical examples of how this is done and how perfect love cast out fear. As a social worker, pastor, father, and grandfather, Danny Silk, is well equipped and qualified to offer parental advice. I found his book amazing and it really changed how I think. I knew these principles he sets forth in reference to how God responds to us, but I hadn’t made the connecting in parenting yet. It’s a parenting model built on freedom, self-control, and love. Danny says no one is to control another person, not even your own children. If we control our children, they don’t learn self-control.

I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn more about the heart of God and how to represent that heart in relationships with children or adults. For more information about this book and the Loving Your Kids On Purpose Ministry please click here.

9 comments:

CyberKitten said...

If I had any kids I'd definitely bring them up as skeptics....

Karla said...

The book isn't about what to teach them about God, but how to raise them to be responsible for themselves as adults in a way that is in keeping with the heart of God, not with a heavy hand, but with a big heart.

CyberKitten said...

I think that part of being a resonable responsible person (adult or pre-adult) is to think skeptically about other peoples belief systems. The production of free-thinking children who grow into free-thinking adults would be a great achievement for any parent.

Karla said...

It's good to know how to think reasonably, but if you have nothing foundational to support thinking it's pointless. If there is no Truth to know why does it matter what people accept as true?

CyberKitten said...

karla said: It's good to know how to think reasonably, but if you have nothing foundational to support thinking it's pointless.

Huh?

karla said: If there is no Truth to know why does it matter what people accept as true?

...and so we go around this bouy again......

Because some things are more reasonable than others. You yourself believe that your religion is superior to other religions do you not? Or that faith is superior to atheism? There need not be absolutes to show that some ways of living or thinking are better than others - I just happen to believe that there is no *ultimate* Truth to be had.... at least not in the way I suspect you mean.

We *could* go around & around in circles about this (again) but until one of us comes up with a killer argument we're pretty much wasting our time....

Karla said...

Okay. I'll leave it alone for now.

Anonymous said...

"We *could* go around & around in circles about this (again) but until one of us comes up with a killer argument we're pretty much wasting our time...."

Actually, Karla is wasting your time, not the other way around. I say this because Karla refuses to understand your argument and insists on her false dichotomy of absolute certainty or absolute uncertainty. Until she can stop thinking in such obviously fallacious terms, she's the one wasting time.

Karla said...

Anonymous, you always have the most pleasant things to say.

Anonymous said...

Well Karla, you are the one that is insisting that your logical fallacy is not only true, but not fallacious in the least. Once you discover that absolute certainty and absolute uncertainty are not the only options, we'll all be better off.